Gone forever...

Greta Rules · Joined: 16 Apr 2007 Posts: 45 Location: Minnesota

The guy I like lives about 1/2 a block from me. But recently he moved and I can't get over him. My frineds keep asking if I'll like someone else and I say no. I liked him because he was funny, cute, smart, and had a really cute puppy beagle. How can I get over him or get someone else to think about?

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Kaytee576 · Site Admin Joined: 08 Apr 2007 Posts: 256 Location: UK

HI sweetie, Sorry to hear you feel this way.

It is always hard when someone you have feelings for moves away, I know as I too have been there, I had feelings for a bloke at my school I liked him from the moment I saw him though I never found it in me to actually tell him at first the feelings were always there, When we left school we became friends..In total I liked him for nine years, But there was always a reason we couldn't be together, (Mostly as he kept messing me around) Then one day he came up to me and said that he had met a girl and the next thing I knew she was pregnant

My whole world fell apart and though he hadn't actually moved he might as well have as I knew I had lost him.

It was very Hard at first, If a song came on that reminded me of him I would cry and I felt I would never get over him, But in time you do.

I know it seems hard for you to believe right now but the pain does ease, I don't know whether you ever had a relationship with this guy? Do you keep in contact? Sorry to ask I just wanted to keep it clearer in my head so I know abit more about the situation.

I know right now he is probably the only thing you can think about and you feel you will never look at another Man again, But you will..One day you will see someone and you will feel those feelings one again and you will wonder what on earth you saw in this guy that you are thinking about now.

Of course reading this now you probably find it hard to believe, I did too but in time the feelings will fade, you are still young you will meet loads of guys and have lots of relationships before you find Mr Right...Trust me I have been with my partner for four years now and know I wasn't meant to be with the man I thought I loved after all, And that sadly he was just apart of my life that was there for me to learn from.

Of course as I said above it doesnt feel right to think about liking someone else in your eyes this guy was perfect, but I believe everything happens for a reason and maybe that relationship was not meant to be,
Give yourself time He was cute and smart but who knows he could have been a right Pain in the butt!
Of course you will never forget him but oneday you will see him as he passes you in the street and think "what on earth was I thinking!!!"

Take care Darlin Hope I have helped in some way xxxx

Angels-quest · Site Admin Joined: 09 Apr 2007 Posts: 75 Location: UK

Hey greta,

Hmmm, yes did you ever go out with this Guy? Or just fancy him at a distance?
Well it certainly is a tough one.All through high school i totally adored this Guy, he was the best there ever was as far as i was concerned. he spoke, and I heard orchestra's, he looked my way & my tummy flipped & I'd go weak at the knee's.....I think the nearest I ever got was one dance with him at a party, and it wasn't romantic.

It took years for me to not think about him like that, truly, I was gone hook, line & sinker for him. Only He hardly noticed me, i was the quiet one.
yes, i did get other Boyfriends, but I'd always feel like they just were not like this guy i sooo wanted.

I dont know what changed it for me, maybe I just grew older & wiser. i look back now & think 'Oh my, what did I find so amazing with him???' I never thought I'd think that in a million years.

In one way it is so nice to be feeling all the feelings you are, the excitement & romantic allure of it all.As it's never quite the same when you get older. i mean, you still get the tummy flips, etc...I dont know, maybe it's because you know more now, than you did when you were at school & a little more nieve?
Although at the same time it is heartbreaking & just eats you up, when you cant have the one you want. So it's not all hearts & flowers, it can be hell.

I always believe everything happens for a reason. So although you cannot see it now, maybe the fact he has moved away, is because you are not mean't to be together (maybe he isn't as great as you think, there may be a part of him you really wouldn't like, and it would then shatter your whole illusion of him) Sometimes it is better to dream, than have the reality.
Maybe, just maybe it's because there is someone far better for you, out there....and that is the reason this time, it is not mean't to be?

Did he know how you felt about him?Only he could be totally oblivious to how you feel.

Do you see him still at all?
Sorry for the questions, just trying to understand the situation a little better, then easier to advise clearer

Life, it's just sooo complicated huh.

Hugs to you,
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In Loving Memory of Dad 1945-2002. Nan 1919-2006..and all our furry Babies: Roxy, Suzy,Annie,Peach,Kimi,Cookie,Dudley,Spud,Alfie,Thomas,Chester,Milly,Molly,Harry,Wesley.Until we meet again.xxxx

queenmaria · Posted: Thu Apr 26, 2007 3:46 am Post subject:

oh this has hapened to me. A kid i liked, well i learned hes moving to tennesee( or whatever). Tennesee! thats like really far.Are you friends with any of his friends? Get his email or aim or myspace or something. this probably isnt the last time youll ever see him. I'm guessing your about the same age as me. 13, 14. its hard to leave all your friends.Perhaps a summer trip is in the future? And about thinking about some one else.You dont have to switch over so fast. mope about him. sing songs about leaving. When your friends ask about who you like, say 'You! Lets get married tomorrow" If you think your friends would think its wierd, you probably shouldnt say it but its what i say if some one bugs me about it.(i dont feel like telling them that i like that new kid from Quebec and that I'm learning French so he'll like me not because i am Canadian) That so cool that you like him partly cause of his puppy. I used to like a guy because he liked the same flavor of Jello as me. My friends thought it was so weird, but its not often that you find someone who loves strawberry-kiwi-rasberry Jello! ok I'm getting off track, but i hope this helps.How far is he moving? A couple towns away? Are you part of any traveing sports teams? In my area, the closest 'big' city (accually very average size, but everywhere is bigger than Elko) is three hours away. Traveling teams go there and catch up with friends. This is off topic again but i need to vent. The place to hang out is Wal-Mart! There are 4 schools! the closest big places are 3 1/2 4 hour drives. ok im done.

some songs to listen to
Slipped away - Avril lavigne
Fall to pieces- Avril (again, i know im a avrilaholic)
My Immortal- Evanescence

Okay , those are the ones I'd listen to. They may totally not help but ,yeah.

ps. i hope this helps
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detoam · Guest

I don't wish to sound cold, but God I wish still there. Don't try to get over anyone. That never happens. Simply live through it. It will feel great later and the love will stay with You forever. I am still in love with the girl I had a crush on when I was eight. Dang she was cute. I am an old guy now, but I like to remember the love and the things I did to get noticed. Feel crappy for now. Later on it WILL benefit You.

Greta Rules · Joined: 16 Apr 2007 Posts: 45 Location: Minnesota

Thanks for everyone's advice! I just recently found out why he moved. He's parents divorced, his mother and brother live here and he lives with his father in there old town.

_________________
I wanna wear my hair up in a mess
Pair of jeans, can you get with that?
Give you something like you’ve never had
Cuz I only wanna be wanted by you
-'Wanted' by Jessie James