A PROBLEM SHARED...

Joined: 16 Apr 2007 Posts: 35 Location: Minnesota

One of my friends parents are almost done finalizing there divorce. My friend found out that they were getting divorced a year ago, and was saddened (i don't know if that's a word) by it. My friends and I comforted her in her time of need. Yet she won't get over it. She's always complaining how she can't come to some one's house because she needs to spend time with her dad, or she's at her mom's this weekend, the only weekend of the month(both her parents live in town). I got a cell phone for christmas and she says she's the only of us (my friends andI) who really needs a cell phone because she carries a whole address book in it! It's starting to really bug me and my friends and I. Is there any way I could tell her to get over it? I know it's hard having parent's divorce(my parents almost got one) but she keeps complaining!

Site Admin Joined: 08 Apr 2007 Posts: 261 Location: UK

Hi Greta I am sorry for the delay.
It sounds like your friend has gone through a very tough time in her life, and she is having to come to terms with a lot of changes and upset.
All you can really do for her right now is be there for her.
She will in time find it easier though she will probably never fully get over it all.

I am lucky my parents are still together but I know how divorce can affect children in a big way which is understandable, often children blame themselves which is a shame as I am sure it is rarely anything to do with how they are, People drift apart sometimes and find they get on better when they are apart.
I wish your friend lots of luck and I know you will be there to support her, though she might be annoying at times grin and bare it, I am sure things will get better soon she just needs time.
Always here for you xxx

Posted: Sat Feb 16, 2008 12:41 am

I think that she's jealous of you guys. Also, she might feel like people are ignoring her, and she wants everyone to focus on her. I know that I had times like that! I felt like my parents weren't listening to me or considering my feelings, so I made sure everyone else knew what I was feeling.

I would say that next time she says something like that, you should finish her sentence, and roll your eyes, but smile and say " maybe next weekend. We miss you coming to the movies with us!" so she knows that your not being mean. I think she'll get the hint that you relize what she is saying.